tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6912321843321447366.post152284580097035210..comments2023-11-21T13:12:09.387-05:00Comments on Rattling the Bones: Goodbye Reality.Lisa F. Tardiffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11417343793276016602noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6912321843321447366.post-86301859691482841942012-09-29T03:35:50.406-04:002012-09-29T03:35:50.406-04:00I used to be very huggy, I was huggy with everyone...I used to be very huggy, I was huggy with everyone I liked. I am still very huggy with family but I do find it harder with other people. It comes from being an Ex-Victim, letting people physically touch me, letting them that closely into my personal space is an act of trust. <br /><br />A couple of guys at work are like the Brothers I never had and one of them will put a hand on my shoulder as he passes if he knows I am having a tough day or give me hug if his teasing has gone a little close to the bone. It has literally taken me years to not tense when this happens, to relax with it.<br /><br />In my head I am still huggy and this shows online, but in the physical world, it is really hard sometimes. At the end of my last drum circle, everyone was being huggy as we left, which was fine with the people I had been working with for the last year but one or two people who wanted hugs were those I had only just met and it felt rude to leave them out, but uncomfortable all the same...Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02335627965504673440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6912321843321447366.post-1385875331175768842012-09-21T13:26:06.517-04:002012-09-21T13:26:06.517-04:00I am learning to accept goodbyes, especially now t...I am learning to accept goodbyes, especially now that I have people I love so much in my life. When the experience is so wonderful, you don't want it to end. <br /><br />But we all need time away from each other for other things, for introspection, for work, etc... Otherwise it becomes like an addiction, an imbalance. <br /><br />I think it is wonderful to miss someone or to be missed, because it shows that the relationships are valued and appreciated. <br /><br />Ending with gratitude is so much better than being resentful or angry that it's over. <br /><br />Being open to new experiences is also important. Going forward into the unknown takes trust and courage. <br /><br />Some of my thoughts on the topic...<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07299877776069389696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6912321843321447366.post-57180681366331323812012-09-20T15:54:03.140-04:002012-09-20T15:54:03.140-04:00Thank you for your feedback Michelle. I love it w...Thank you for your feedback Michelle. I love it when people point out particular messages in my blog entries -- and show me how they relate. COOL. <br /><br />It may sound like simple stuff -- but for many of us it's not "simple or easy" to connect to who we are. It takes time and dedication. <br /><br />It's always great to hear when people are enjoying the journey and learning to "GET" the story. LOL<br /><br />LOVE - LISALisa F. Tardiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11417343793276016602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6912321843321447366.post-45152894316988371382012-09-20T12:27:11.464-04:002012-09-20T12:27:11.464-04:00I love learning to understand Goodbyes...It is com...I love learning to understand Goodbyes...It is comforting to know its all a part of the bigger plan. I think it makes things bearable once you go through it few times :) I also loved this part "it’s about you survive day in and day out, 24hours a day, 52 weeks a year – in your own presence." I am learning to appreciate me and work on who I am because I see when we are strong it helps that bigger picture. I like making my dot and ventureing out somewhere new its an adventure!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16822760763130807297noreply@blogger.com