In the last few days our 10th month old puppy has been recognizing dogs on television. Every time she sees a dog on the screen she becomes alert and makes these whimpering sounds. When the dog disappears from the scene she becomes agitated and starts looking for the dog around the house. Soon she’s looking under the television, through the glass door of the bureau, thinking that perhaps the dog is hiding there. Nobody believed me at first when I told them that our dog actually watched TV until they finally saw Bella attempt to engage a TV pooch to play with her.
One thing that I’ve noticed in the last 40 years of my life is that people don’t blindly believe in the stories of others. Proof is often needed. If you tell people that in order to reach wholeness people have to work through countless fragments, the statement makes sense to them; but if you tell them that past lives exist, it’s harder to believe. One suggests proof or confirmation whereas the other relies on faith. One way or the other, in certain traditions the idea of past lives can be proven (so to speak) through the exploration of fragments.
Before Bella even started looking at the dogs on TV I knew she was seeking for a companion. When we adopted Bella her previous owners explained that she was constantly waiting at the door as if she was waiting for someone. They assumed that Bella wasn’t happy with them and was already looking for our family. We were told Bella was incredibly playful and social with other animals; and even though she was close to the Chihuahua and the family cat they never seemed to be enough. Bella adjusted wonderfully to our home. She loves it when there’s lots of people around; but still she seems to need another dog, a companion. When the thought occurred to me I started dreaming about another Beagle and the word “sisterhood” repeatedly came up. Finally, GP, ET and I started looking for another Beagle to adopt but each time we found one, it didn’t seem to work. As if we were looking for one particular dog.
When I met my husband (of 22 years) I felt quickly drawn to him as if we had known each other for centuries. It was easy to share everything with him and he seemed to understand me beyond anyone else. Soon, we were friends and eventually we dated and married. Through our relationship we often noticed underlying stories to repetitive reactions and emotions. So one day, we decided to explore the stories and bring awareness to “the characters.” We found that by working the stories, we resolved the issues and got rid of the detrimental reactions. After doing this process a few times and learning about the Medicine Wheel we discovered characters were synonymous to fragments.
For example, my husband loved horses and we often went horse back riding earlier on in our friendship. ET always got the strong, elegant horse while I always got the slow, stout, older horse. Still despite my horse’s predictable nature every time we went riding my animal would always somehow get vigorous and out of control; and ET had to save the day by galloping by my side and bringing my horse to a halt. It became so much of a repetition that after some time I got paranoid and refused to go riding. When we finally looked into the story we met two interesting characters: A man who loves horses and can be quite heroic, and a woman who came to fear horses because of an accident. We looked at the story from so many different angles that year and we synchronically came across movies about horses where these characters actually took form. We actually learn some important lessons with the help of these characters and by recognizing them in our daily living we were able to make changes in attitude and behaviours, which helped us grow.
It was never important to recognize these characters as past lives and yet, we knew that there was a strong possibility that we were looking into distant memories and/or incarnations. What was more important to us was the potential to learn, heal and grow through these stories. Still after exploring a few stories we couldn’t get away from the obvious phenomenal details, which either triggered the fragments to appear or repeatedly brought them up until we actually integrated them. Eventually we couldn’t get away from the perspective that perhaps these fragments were ancestral; hence past incarnations. Obviously this brought up a full list of new ponderings.
On the Medicine Wheel the Moons suggest two different types of fragments: inner children and ancestors. Basically the Wheel brings up the notion that we mature through time (in one life time or through many life times). If we can heal and teach our inner children to grow up and be healthy, well and whole; they will eventually become god-like or goddess like. Past lives offer stories that are similar to inner children stories; but speak of adults and their unresolved. These ancestral fragments basically show that we have an eternal potential of growth and that wellness and wholeness is possible with time. The idea of inner-children and inner-parents (ancestors) speaks of the potential of self-sufficiency and survival; but it also introduces the scientific notion that we hold within our genetics the potential of a family, a community, a nation and all of humanity. When working through these stories we learn the wisdom of the sacred circle, which basically or simply states: “Our inner community stands with the inner community of all others to build yet another dimension of common goals, needs etc… CREATION!”
“How do we recognize fragments?” asked KAT.
We recognize fragments by paying attention to repetitive actions, behaviours, reactions and emotions which are triggered always by the same kind of story. Once we’ve observed or taken note of the story which triggers the reactions we can see the characters emerge. We can also identify the characters that best suit us. Once we’ve claimed a character we can begin to explore his or her life. The idea is to become a friend and to understand the character enough to forgive, sympathise and learn, heal along with it. These fragments are meant to be integrated; which means they no longer lead or control our lives: Our consciousness does!
Some elders suggest that “it’s the memories of the ancestors” left behind through the bones of the dead which brings us these stories and these teachings and healing. I guess reincarnation can be looked at from different angles… Personally and perhaps even ironically, I tend to look for proof. I believe in fragments and their stories because they’ve lived through my life, my personal story. They’ve brought teachings, healing and growth.