Monday, November 28, 2011
Have you come across the American television show called the Gifted Man? It’s about a successful, competitive neuro surgeon whose life drastically changes after his ex-wife dies and appears in his life as a Spirit Guide. Suddenly she’s triggering important life lessons; which help her arrogant, self-indulged ex-husband to look at himself with a more humbled perspective. I’m assuming the writers picked medical doctors as main characters to give some credibility to the alleged New Age concept of Spirit Guides. You get the idea that healing occurs with the help of science and skilled practitioners; but also assisted by mystery and spirit. God and medical doctors still go hand-in-hand in this show. Despite the attempt to be open to phenomenal occurrences Western judgments and programs are still palpable in the background. Still the writers thought of including a young, urban Shaman to the story. Unfortunately I’m not sure if the character is meant to be taken seriously or not. Yet, I’ll admit Anton Little Creek does bring forth some interesting and accurate information on Spirit Guides. On a few occasions I did cringe and shake my head at a few details; but all and all the show is a good starting point for anyone who’s interested to learn more on the topic of spirit guidance.
I’ve often been asked “does everyone have a Spirit Guide?”
Yes we all have guides. They help us through our personal journey by triggering lessons; challenging us; and pushing us to explore certain life themes deeper. Some guides can be family members; but in many cases they are not. When I was dating my husband, 25 years ago, I often noticed his Spirit Guide when he was driving. Right away I was told his guide was a race car driver who had passed away in an accident at one of the major races. At the time, I was slowly getting to know ET and I wasn’t yet aware that he was a race car enthusiast; and loved cars and driving. At first, like most people ET didn’t quite believe in guides or spirit. Yet after I shared with him the information I received from his guidance it was very hard for him to discredit any of it. The compatibility was uncanny and so were many of the synchronicities. For years, ET’s guide protected him from car accidents and brought him the “sweetest deals” when it came to vehicles and motor bikes. These days, he refers to his guide as a friend and spends many hours chatting with him in the garage while cleaning his latest ride.
Some people will keep the same guide for a life time while others will move through many guides. I like JEN’s story. For years she’s been talking about soul mates and how important it is for her to find her life companion. A year ago I noticed how her guide kept showing up in the form of a Blue Jay every time she referred to the notion of “soul mates.” I hesitated to speak to her about “him” at first because I didn’t want her to feel even more lonely than she already did. I figured if she knew “her soul mate” was still in the form of Spirit she’d give up on love or fall in deep resistance and denial. I waited until she asked about her “soul mate” before bridging the topic.
Every time I asked JEN’s guide for his name, I’d hear: JAY. One night I dreamt of a man called Jay. He drove a motorcycle and was madly in love with JEN. When I finally shared the information with her she told me that for as long as she could remember she loved the name JAY and was attracted to motorcyclists. It was as if she had already met the love of her life and they had already spent the better half of a life time together. Of course for most people dream reality and waking, mundane, daily reality are very different from one another. JEN’s first reaction was that she wasn’t too trilled with the idea of not being able to hug or kiss JAY. She expressed a strong dislike towards the fact that he remained in Spirit reality.
It’s absolutely natural to feel somewhat disappointed when we find out the love of our life didn’t follow us in flesh and bone. On the other hand, it’s an excellent way to learn about unconditional love and to understand to what extent our “soul mates” are willing to go to love us and support us. MR’s story resembles JEN’s in so much that she too connected with a “soul mate” through discovering a guide.
**Notice how I wrote “a” soul mate … According to the Wheel we have more than one soul mate and the actual definition of “soul mate” implies “someone who completes the learning, healing and growth process of the soul.”
Coming back to MR – her story shows how you can actually fall in love with a guide and live years of incredible moments with Spirit without feeling cheated of a lack of intimacy. In many cases, a connection with a guide through lucid dreaming can be as strong and as read as if you were meeting with a waking reality mate.
In the early 1990’s there was a New Age trend where people believed all Guides had to be First Nation. Part of this trend came from a spiritual belief system where it was said: “Guidance was ancestral wisdom; which came from the land.” If you lived in America it was understood guides were the First People of this land. I believe there is some truth to this idea; but not in the way it was used. By experience and after collecting countless stories on the topic – I’ve come to understand guides / and guidance as a phenomenon; which speaks about an individual and his or her personal journey.
Between the age of 4 and 9 years old my son often referred to his guide as a “monkey-man”. You knew he wasn’t imagining this presence because he could describes this man from head to toe and it wasn’t a character any of us would have come across in North America, in the 21st century. As a mom I found it incredible how my children were open to learn and grow through all kinds of teachings. Monkey man taught CT how to trust himself and open up to creativity. It’s because of his guide he’s a drummer today. There’s so much a parent can bring a child. I was glad to see my husband and I weren’t alone in getting our kids ready for their life story. To be honest a lot of my own personal education came from my own guidance. It is so important to tell our children to trust their inner world and the characters who live there. They are important pieces of their personal puzzle and they are instrumental in the journey towards wholeness.
Carl Jung’s journey into Shamanism helped me see I wasn’t going insane when I opened up to my own journey into self-discovery and personal, spiritual awakening. In his journal he speaks of his guidance and what he learnt from this creature. I recommend to everyone who is looking to learn more about spirit guides to read Carl Jung’s personal journal. From my perspective everyone’s story with a guide speaks of the learning and the healing one has to do to reach wellness and wholeness. Every story is different and unique. Yet every story is similar in form; which shows the reality of the experience and the reality of the character.
I believe some guides are still in the realm of the living. People assume that the word “spirit” implies “dead or deceased.” In some cases it’s true; but in other cases it is not… I’ve had a guide who literally told me “where he lived and how one day we would meet.” For years, I anticipated him and actually sought him out. It was only once I surrendered and didn’t expect him anymore that I finally met him. It was incredibly and obviously changed the way I understood guides. With time and a few shamanic initiations I was able to become a guide myself.
Believe me when I say the experience was not at all like I had expected.
It’s not something you pre-plan; or you mentally or intellectually put into action. It’s completely outside your control and is connected to your personal instinct. When it happens both you and the person you are guiding --- sense it. Indeed, it’s a sensual experience and it has a deep impact at the heart and soul level.
If I had one message to convey when it comes to guidance I would say: “It’s all about having someone out there who believes in you and believes you are indispensable in the scheme of Creation. “ Too many people translate the experience to phenomenon or this notion of “being gifted” when really it’s about the simplest most natural connection between us and a higher force. If you believe there’s something out there that “wants the very best for you” – just send out an energy of trust and faith; and surrender. You can be sure you’ll soon receive an answer in reply and in no time, you’ll be living a deep, lucid connection with a GUIDE.
I welcome your stories with GUIDANCE. Please don’t be shy to leave comments.
If you have any questions please leave those too…… If I can’t answer them in a few sentences, I’ll be sure to write another blog for you. ☺